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if you had a friend
Olympus
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Olympus wrote:
okay, help 
if you and a friend (or friends) had a friendship breakup and it ended on kind of "this friendship has run its course" terms, not entirely positive but not negative or catty in nature, with a "maybe we can revisit later" kind of vibe

then seeing them on social media started making you uncomfortable, would you mute them until you felt like you processed and aren't triggered or simply unfollow and hope if you reunite, you reunite? 
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Date: 31-07-2026 02:43
Olympus
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Olympus wrote:
i feel like its something so small and silly, but i also feel like i'm letting them get away with making me uncomfortable to some degree and still having access to me, as happened in friendship and its like am going against myself by not revoking access??????? or is this stupid
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Date: 31-07-2026 02:52
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bee wrote:
i would say its not worth spending your energy on, protect your own peace 
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Date: 31-07-2026 03:37
Olympus
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Olympus wrote:
bee wrote:
i would say its not worth spending your energy on, protect your own peace 
I agree!! but i have a habit of catastrophizing in my mind, like if i do this will it lead to anything negative or untoward that i might regret...
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Date: 31-07-2026 03:47
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bee wrote:
Olympus wrote:
bee wrote:
i would say its not worth spending your energy on, protect your own peace 
I agree!! but i have a habit of catastrophizing in my mind, like if i do this will it lead to anything negative or untoward that i might regret...
but otherwise is this not leading to your own negative feelings? is that worth what may or may not happen in the future?
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Date: 31-07-2026 03:49
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Azriel wrote:
Mute

though avtually i learned the hard way that muting someones insta does not mute stories . But apparently u can also mute stories i just havent figured out how yet
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Date: 31-07-2026 04:13
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MissLondon wrote:
It would depend on how long we’ve been friends 
but it’s likely I wouldn’t mute them 
I would be angry/hurt 
but the love would still be there
and even if we’re not speaking 
I would still want to know if they’re doing well 
it really depends on the dynamics of your friendship 
but overall, do what makes you comfortable 
until you’re able to deal 

Friendship issues suck 
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Date: 31-07-2026 05:20
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Hauru wrote:
Olympus wrote:
bee wrote:
i would say its not worth spending your energy on, protect your own peace 
I agree!! but i have a habit of catastrophizing in my mind, like if i do this will it lead to anything negative or untoward that i might regret...

i have the same habit and i have regeretted it everytime when i removed them because it burned all bridges. If its nothing too unforgivable i would say just mute them.. you will eventually get used to it and realize you were just in an emotional state. If youre fine by then you can still remove them i just wouldnt make decisions in the spur of the moment 
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Date: 31-07-2026 07:04
Solar
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Solar wrote:
i would mute, probably!! 
i have a friendship that ended similarly like this but just a bit more catty and i still follow the ‘ex’ friend and like her stuff. she used to be my best best friend and i would hate to never see anything about het life again just because we outgrew each other, even though i sometimes get uncomfortable or sad about the situation. 
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Date: 31-07-2026 10:48
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Suchomimus wrote:
well, what about it is making you uncomfortable?
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Date: 31-07-2026 12:18
Olympus
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Olympus wrote:
Suchomimus wrote:
well, what about it is making you uncomfortable?
well It happened in December, and i'm better about it now, but every time i see her now my brain rolls over the events and then thinking about all the old issues from a new lens ECT. ECT.  It just feels like i'm still giving my energy to someone and the situation, when i should be moving on 
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Date: 02-08-2026 02:47
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Maxwell wrote:
Olympus wrote:
Suchomimus wrote:
well, what about it is making you uncomfortable?
well It happened in December, and i'm better about it now, but every time i see her now my brain rolls over the events and then thinking about all the old issues from a new lens ECT. ECT.  It just feels like i'm still giving my energy to someone and the situation, when i should be moving on 
sounds like u shud move on for ur own good 
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Date: 02-08-2026 02:51
Olympus
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Olympus wrote:
Hauru wrote:
Olympus wrote:
bee wrote:
i would say its not worth spending your energy on, protect your own peace 
I agree!! but i have a habit of catastrophizing in my mind, like if i do this will it lead to anything negative or untoward that i might regret...

i have the same habit and i have regeretted it everytime when i removed them because it burned all bridges. If its nothing too unforgivable i would say just mute them.. you will eventually get used to it and realize you were just in an emotional state. If youre fine by then you can still remove them i just wouldnt make decisions in the spur of the moment 
i wouldn't say it's spur of the moment anymore, but i definitely have to ponder on it some more, because as you said, it would probably burn the bridge entirely (although, She already kind of burnt it for me) 
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Date: 02-08-2026 03:04
Olympus
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Olympus wrote:
Maxwell wrote:
Olympus wrote:
Suchomimus wrote:
well, what about it is making you uncomfortable?
well It happened in December, and i'm better about it now, but every time i see her now my brain rolls over the events and then thinking about all the old issues from a new lens ECT. ECT.  It just feels like i'm still giving my energy to someone and the situation, when i should be moving on 
sounds like u shud move on for ur own good 
I agree, i just feel bad for some reason even though i shouldn't...and i'm like well what if i do that and tomorrow would have been the day she wanted to reconcile or something...a lot of stupid what ifs going on in my brain lmao
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Date: 02-08-2026 03:05
Olympus
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Olympus wrote:
Azriel wrote:
Mute

though avtually i learned the hard way that muting someones insta does not mute stories . But apparently u can also mute stories i just havent figured out how yet
if you go in your following list and click the 3 dots by their name, it gives you a list of things you can mute them from!! 

i've muted damn near everything from them  but i still see like if they've liked a reel or post 
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Date: 02-08-2026 03:08
Olympus
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Olympus wrote:
MissLondon wrote:
It would depend on how long we’ve been friends 
but it’s likely I wouldn’t mute them 
I would be angry/hurt 
but the love would still be there
and even if we’re not speaking 
I would still want to know if they’re doing well 
it really depends on the dynamics of your friendship 
but overall, do what makes you comfortable 
until you’re able to deal 

Friendship issues suck 
i'm not at the point where i can accept simply that love is still there, i fear. if it adds context, we were online friends first then became real life friends... apparently we looked at the friendship level in two different ways. and honestly, things had been wrong in our friendship and I would talk to her about them, assumed things would get better, and then shit happened again. it seemed we almost always had a disagreement or argument every meet up, until i decided to keep things lighter. (so there was already strain there but we seemed to be getting better before the breakup) 

they do suck, and i am someone who ruminates, so it's hard for me to make a clear cut decision and not hurt about it bhfdjns 
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Date: 02-08-2026 03:15
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