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Stay Positive! |
Many young people nowadays are struggling from anxiety, depression or stress. But that's not what I wanted to write about today! No. It's how you can get trough it! I have always been that kind of person who doesn't belong, or fit in anywere. In groups at school, at parties, nowhere. I have gone thorugh some shitty bullying and changed school once. I got attacked on facebok, this one guy who made me his own scapegoat, his punching bag. He never used my name in his statuses, so the policereport got closed down. But he mentioned my haircolour (which was pink...), my friends, my boyfriend, how I looked and behaved in general. He called me a pussy, a whore, a fake bitch, a liar, a skunk who should take my life and so on. I never got offenced by these, they're just silly words. I knew the truth, which was that I told his girlfriend he was cheating with my best friend, because I cared about these girls so much. But what made me fall into a deep depression was the looks from strangers in the corridors, what people may think about me. I skipped school so much that spring, to not look into his eyes. He didn't even get any form of punishment for what he had done because the teachers felt bad for him. But even though all this, I managed to take myself through school, and I got more than good grades. How? I can't tell you because I don't know. But what I'm about to tell you, is how you get through this tough periods in your life. 1. You are NEVER alone! Even though it can really feel like you are in the world all alone without anyone who shares the same feelings as you, you're not. It's always people around you who care, even though it's family, or your cat, or people on virtual popstar. It's always people who care! Find someone you can talk with. Because all these emotions inside needs to get out or you will eventually turn into some mad person. It really do help to talk about things that puts you down. 2. When you feel like hurt yourself... [TW!!] If you feel like hurt yourself, take an icecube and grab it hella hard, it hurts like a bitch and you can scream at the same time if you feel like it! Scream out your frustration! It doesn't leave any marks and it isn't dangerous. You can also take a cold shower. It helped for me to hide every sharp object in my room. You should try! 3. Take help from others! For me it helps to have like a carrot to look forward to get. Like riding a donkey and holding a carrot infront of them, and when they reach the goal they get it. My mom said the last month in my 9th grade "you get 50 kr (Swedish Krona, 5,0€) every day you make it through school. And in the end I got 1500 kr (150€). It's like, putting a piece of candy on every page in a studybook and eat through your homework. Beg your friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, dad or sister or brother to make you some kind of "carrot" to make it through school or whatever you are struggling through! 4. Exercise! Fresh air helps more than you often think. It helps me a lot to walk with my boyfriends dog through the woods, breath in the air, hear the songs of the birds and watch the squirrels flee from the dog in panic... Also, to go to the gym, run, walk or swim makes you think of something else than those thoughts haunting your head. 5. Do things you like! Go bowling with friends, or family, play videogames, draw, write. Do what you appreciate to do, that also makes you forget everything else around you! 6. Write your thoughts down on a paper! .. then throw it in the fire. Or keep it and reed it later. To write things out help aswell as talking to others also! 7. Buy a pet! Yeah, this isn't the easiest things, I know. But a dog or a cat really helps out alot. My boyfriend brought home a dog when he was depressed. Something to motivate him, to make him have to move his ass from the house everyday, because that's what a dog needs. A dog is someone who understands more than you think. It can feel how you feel and shares your feelings with you. 8. Don't forget to give yourself credit! Don't be so tough, you do good stuff to! You're not worth- or useless! You are here for a reason! You are here to stay, and live! 9. Listen to music that makes you happy! NO depressive music, no that doesn't help out a lot. Maybe to get understanding in that moment but often it makes you even more sad! Find happy, hopefull music or videos! Or watch a movie with a good ending! 10. Chocolate! Actually chocolate helps at that moment you feel down. It also makes you an unhealthy person, but if you feeling down, you deserve chocolate! 11. If you know someone who's depressed... .. do not say "put yourself together" or "it's gonna be fine". Show understanding, show warmth, give them a hug and make them feel loved. Don't say "it's not gonna be better, but you learn to live with it", since that does NOT help at that moment!! Do you have any more tips? Write them down below! <3 |