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Princess of Pop

Arthema wrote:

MissLondon wrote:

Abby wrote:
She doesn't owe you anything but who she is for just saying no?
it's not her place lol and ultimately the professor's decision

If she promised you it'll b okay to come back when she's JUST paying half and now did not keep the promise, that's a shit friend

Even with Glowed in the house
roomie would still pay half.
But, if there’s utilities/electricity etc
seems like a extra expense
for the roomie if she had
to cover the cost alone.

I get that it’s a friend
but it also seems a little selfish
to expect someone to pause
just because one has to
check out for a few months.
I think the friend should have
been a little more clear
and asked for a definite date of return.
Either way, hope things work out
although I’d feel awkward as hell

I don't get it she's paying ONLY for herself though?
what's awkward about that?
Glowed stated so, I see no problem with that

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Living Legend

glowed wrote:

yeule wrote:
i hope everything gets worked out and things go smoothly for you soon, goodluck!!

T T thank you

Private
Living Legend

glowed wrote:
I stated my claims lovingly and she left me on seen woop

Private
Princess of Pop

Arthema wrote:

glowed wrote:

Abby wrote:
She doesn't owe you anything but who she is for just saying no?
it's not her place lol and ultimately the professor's decision

If she promised you it'll b okay to come back when she's JUST paying half and now did not keep the promise, that's a shit friend

right ... i talked to the prof just now and she said that she can't really kick her out but is willing to talk to her. and i'd rather not have the landlords involved so I said that I'll talk to her myself. so I messaged her and now I wait ( :

I feel like a child when saying oh she's a shit friend but truly,, she is

No need to kick her out, you lived together before and it is not her apartment? Simple as.
At times when you rent a place contracts are per room and not full price, and since she has been paying only her part this is just showing how this should not be an issue.

Why reason would she have to say no, to begin with as well...?
I can understand but if you need to come back you should put yourself first as well, just like that friend of yours does rn telling you no lol.

Well you're confirming so if she makes this whole thing problematic just think about yourself, it's not nice but it is what it is, if you need a place to live in and you DID live there
and she promised you that, if the professor knows it's a verbal agreement and if she can't respect that based on your friendship, or the fact she gave you her word... yeah after hearing her say and try and talk to her like an adult with no success, I'm just going straight up to the landlord because fuck that .

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Princess of Pop

Arthema wrote:

glowed wrote:
I stated my claims lovingly and she left me on seen woop

Even more of a reason to just go to the landlord
If your name is still written on a contract you have a right to go there? who's asking her lol
That apartment does not belong to her or her parents

Private
Living Legend

glowed wrote:

Abby wrote:

glowed wrote:

Abby wrote:
She doesn't owe you anything but who she is for just saying no?
it's not her place lol and ultimately the professor's decision

If she promised you it'll b okay to come back when she's JUST paying half and now did not keep the promise, that's a shit friend

right ... i talked to the prof just now and she said that she can't really kick her out but is willing to talk to her. and i'd rather not have the landlords involved so I said that I'll talk to her myself. so I messaged her and now I wait ( :

I feel like a child when saying oh she's a shit friend but truly,, she is

No need to kick her out, you lived together before and it is not her apartment? Simple as.
At times when you rent a place contracts are per room and not full price, and since she has been paying only her part this is just showing how this should not be an issue.

Why reason would she have to say no, to begin with as well...?
I can understand but if you need to come back you should put yourself first as well, just like that friend of yours does rn telling you no lol.

Well you're confirming so if she makes this whole thing problematic just think about yourself, it's not nice but it is what it is, if you need a place to live in and you DID live there
and she promised you that, if the professor knows it's a verbal agreement and if she can't respect that based on your friendship, or the fact she gave you her word... yeah after hearing her say and try and talk to her like an adult with no success, I'm just going straight up to the landlord because fuck that .

her reason is that she'd prefer to live alone at this time ((:

I made the decision to move away for myself, thinking about myself and my health and it was not an easy decision to make and now I'm. realizing how much I fucked up

you live and you learn ig

MissLondon
World Famous

MissLondon wrote:

Abby wrote:

MissLondon wrote:

Abby wrote:
She doesn't owe you anything but who she is for just saying no?
it's not her place lol and ultimately the professor's decision

If she promised you it'll b okay to come back when she's JUST paying half and now did not keep the promise, that's a shit friend

Even with Glowed in the house
roomie would still pay half.
But, if there’s utilities/electricity etc
seems like a extra expense
for the roomie if she had
to cover the cost alone.

I get that it’s a friend
but it also seems a little selfish
to expect someone to pause
just because one has to
check out for a few months.
I think the friend should have
been a little more clear
and asked for a definite date of return.
Either way, hope things work out
although I’d feel awkward as hell

I don't get it she's paying ONLY for herself though?
what's awkward about that?
Glowed stated so, I see no problem with that

What I meant by awkward is
It’s like when have a party in middle school
and your mom makes you invite
one of her friends kids
that you’re not cool with/don’t like.
They show up and it’s evident
the invite wasn’t by personal choice
so yeah, awkward..at least it
would be for me lol

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Living Legend

glowed wrote:
we have been friends for well over 5 years now so i am expecting her to reply sooner or later ? so i shall be waiting because the anxiety will keep me up for hours

Private
Living Legend

glowed wrote:

MissLondon wrote:

Abby wrote:

MissLondon wrote:
Even with Glowed in the house
roomie would still pay half.
But, if there’s utilities/electricity etc
seems like a extra expense
for the roomie if she had
to cover the cost alone.

I get that it’s a friend
but it also seems a little selfish
to expect someone to pause
just because one has to
check out for a few months.
I think the friend should have
been a little more clear
and asked for a definite date of return.
Either way, hope things work out
although I’d feel awkward as hell

I don't get it she's paying ONLY for herself though?
what's awkward about that?
Glowed stated so, I see no problem with that

What I meant by awkward is
It’s like when have a party in middle school
and your mom makes you invite
one of her friends kids
that you’re not cool with/don’t like.
They show up and it’s evident
the invite wasn’t by personal choice
so yeah, awkward..at least it
would be for me lol

mm it will be awkward for sure
but that's no issue for me honestly

Private
Princess of Pop

Arthema wrote:

glowed wrote:

Abby wrote:

glowed wrote:
right ... i talked to the prof just now and she said that she can't really kick her out but is willing to talk to her. and i'd rather not have the landlords involved so I said that I'll talk to her myself. so I messaged her and now I wait ( :

I feel like a child when saying oh she's a shit friend but truly,, she is

No need to kick her out, you lived together before and it is not her apartment? Simple as.
At times when you rent a place contracts are per room and not full price, and since she has been paying only her part this is just showing how this should not be an issue.

Why reason would she have to say no, to begin with as well...?
I can understand but if you need to come back you should put yourself first as well, just like that friend of yours does rn telling you no lol.

Well you're confirming so if she makes this whole thing problematic just think about yourself, it's not nice but it is what it is, if you need a place to live in and you DID live there
and she promised you that, if the professor knows it's a verbal agreement and if she can't respect that based on your friendship, or the fact she gave you her word... yeah after hearing her say and try and talk to her like an adult with no success, I'm just going straight up to the landlord because fuck that .

her reason is that she'd prefer to live alone at this time ((:

I made the decision to move away for myself, thinking about myself and my health and it was not an easy decision to make and now I'm. realizing how much I fucked up

you live and you learn ig

A question, the contract on both of you?
she wants to live alone she can find a place for herself lol

I see, she respected you then but can't actually respect the first promise she made, then why should you respect what she's asking from you?
respect is mutual and it just feels like she might be shitting on you.
You didn't fuck up, not at all, I'm proud of you for making that big decision, you just have a shit friend.

Private
Princess of Pop

Arthema wrote:

MissLondon wrote:

Abby wrote:

MissLondon wrote:
Even with Glowed in the house
roomie would still pay half.
But, if there’s utilities/electricity etc
seems like a extra expense
for the roomie if she had
to cover the cost alone.

I get that it’s a friend
but it also seems a little selfish
to expect someone to pause
just because one has to
check out for a few months.
I think the friend should have
been a little more clear
and asked for a definite date of return.
Either way, hope things work out
although I’d feel awkward as hell

I don't get it she's paying ONLY for herself though?
what's awkward about that?
Glowed stated so, I see no problem with that

What I meant by awkward is
It’s like when have a party in middle school
and your mom makes you invite
one of her friends kids
that you’re not cool with/don’t like.
They show up and it’s evident
the invite wasn’t by personal choice
so yeah, awkward..at least it
would be for me lol

I mean okay I understand what you're saying, but it's a WHOLE different case if well....
the apartment contract is on both of them, by law she can't keep her out lol

It would be really uncomfortable at times, but well
Glowed said she'd have no problem with it so there's another side to this awkward situation and it's ...
That she needs a place as well

Private
Living Legend

glowed wrote:

Abby wrote:

glowed wrote:

Abby wrote:
No need to kick her out, you lived together before and it is not her apartment? Simple as.
At times when you rent a place contracts are per room and not full price, and since she has been paying only her part this is just showing how this should not be an issue.

Why reason would she have to say no, to begin with as well...?
I can understand but if you need to come back you should put yourself first as well, just like that friend of yours does rn telling you no lol.

Well you're confirming so if she makes this whole thing problematic just think about yourself, it's not nice but it is what it is, if you need a place to live in and you DID live there
and she promised you that, if the professor knows it's a verbal agreement and if she can't respect that based on your friendship, or the fact she gave you her word... yeah after hearing her say and try and talk to her like an adult with no success, I'm just going straight up to the landlord because fuck that .

her reason is that she'd prefer to live alone at this time ((:

I made the decision to move away for myself, thinking about myself and my health and it was not an easy decision to make and now I'm. realizing how much I fucked up

you live and you learn ig

A question, the contract on both of you?
she wants to live alone she can find a place for herself lol

I see, she respected you then but can't actually respect the first promise she made, then why should you respect what she's asking from you?
respect is mutual and it just feels like she might be shitting on you.
You didn't fuck up, not at all, I'm proud of you for making that big decision, you just have a shit friend.

now this is an issue
we never made a contract : D
we talked about it in the beginning but never went through with writing one and i'm,, i haven't even realized that until you mentioned a contract just there

thank you for being so kind though, although I definitely did fuck up. but
yes I have no buts, I'm drained

I just wish she'd reply or call me so we can discuss this like grown ups

Private
Princess of Pop

Arthema wrote:

glowed wrote:

Abby wrote:

glowed wrote:
her reason is that she'd prefer to live alone at this time ((:

I made the decision to move away for myself, thinking about myself and my health and it was not an easy decision to make and now I'm. realizing how much I fucked up

you live and you learn ig

A question, the contract on both of you?
she wants to live alone she can find a place for herself lol

I see, she respected you then but can't actually respect the first promise she made, then why should you respect what she's asking from you?
respect is mutual and it just feels like she might be shitting on you.
You didn't fuck up, not at all, I'm proud of you for making that big decision, you just have a shit friend.

now this is an issue
we never made a contract : D
we talked about it in the beginning but never went through with writing one and i'm,, i haven't even realized that until you mentioned a contract just there

thank you for being so kind though, although I definitely did fuck up. but
yes I have no buts, I'm drained

I just wish she'd reply or call me so we can discuss this like grown ups

Well, then sadly that's the F on your side... BUT on the bright side,
she has no claim to just tell you she wants to live alone if she has no contract as well.
If it was on her name? if she had to pay the entire rent? that would be another story, but it isn't.
I'm just thinking of how convenient it's for her, not paying the full rent, saving up on money, and having the full apartment for herself lmao.

At this point I'd jut take it up with the landlord, and let him know that you tried speaking to her and the initial well promise and talk you had, I assume he knows because you were gone from the apartment for a while and didn't pay for it, it might be hard and she might lash out on you but don't take the "easier route out of it" and just let her get what she wants.

I hope so too, but I'm not an optimist and it doesn't seem like she would or that she'd make it troublesome, at least that's the impression I got from her

I know the feeling, and ofc, be kind to yourself as well and remind yourself that your points are valid as well.
You guys talked and you were supposed to come back but once the time comes she's backing down on her word?
You need a place to stay as well, you got in there the same time she did, you found the place, I HOPE you told the landlord the first thing, that you're temporarily going to go home but you WILL come back.
I hope that she will answer and you'd resolve it like adults but if not... stand your ground.
And good luck!

MissLondon
World Famous

MissLondon wrote:

glowed wrote:
we have been friends for well over 5 years now so i am expecting her to reply sooner or later ? so i shall be waiting because the anxiety will keep me up for hours

Being friends, y’all didn’t speak
the entire time you were gone?

It sucks but ig
you learned the first rule of adulting
learn to depend on yourself

Private
Living Legend

glowed wrote:

MissLondon wrote:

glowed wrote:
we have been friends for well over 5 years now so i am expecting her to reply sooner or later ? so i shall be waiting because the anxiety will keep me up for hours

Being friends, y’all didn’t speak
the entire time you were gone?

It sucks but ig
you learned the first rule of adulting
learn to depend on yourself

oh no we very much did? we speak on the daily basis
and we saw one another just days ago

i sure learned my lesson here yep