Why does no one ever speak to me - Forum

MissLondon
Queen of Queens

MissLondon wrote:

mraizawa wrote:

MissLondon wrote:
People are attracted to
what you put out.
Are you friendly or try to
start conversations with them?
Want to be included, you have
to put forth some type of effort

I try to use friendly body language towards people so they know I'm open for conversation, but as I said I also don't want to be rude and start talking to people who don't want to be talked to.

Have they told you they don’t
want to be bothered?

I’ve started conversations with strangers
with, “I’m sorry but I couldn’t help but overhear…”
and boom, we end up chatting and laughing
like we’re casual friends.

People are more open than you think
but if you just keep to yourself
it makes people back off because
it comes across as if you’re unapproachable.

I used to be shy so I somewhat get it
but things didn’t change
until I just went for it

Mraizawa
Youtube star

mraizawa wrote:

ouch wrote:

mraizawa wrote:
Same, I don't look very feminine and don't act girly so maybe I...intimidate other women? Lol

Same, but I don't think I intimidate other women, I just think mby im not their type they gravitate towards for friendship idk. Its fine rlly, when I still went to chool I was in a class with my beat friend so I wasn't alone, but even when she wasn't there and I was "alone" I don't mind, except if theres forced mandatory breaks where u have to be among other students ? Idk

I am 99% looks has smth to do with it tho, bcus I noticed after I started wearing makeup and looking more fem, ppl would approach me more. I could imagine thats the thing in beauty school at least

Looking back I also think more people talk to me while I wear makeup. I think usually to compliment me on it and thats it but hey it's a start.

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it's definitely a matter of looks but i feel like that only matters when you don't know them, probably better of trying to approach them regardless

Stormiexx
Streetmusician

Stormiexx wrote:
let me just give u some advice as someone who attracts literally everyone.............

1) go up to them and just start talking to them. doesnt matter what its about. you accidentally spilled milk on the floor at home the day before? there u go. "hey girl whats up? u wanna hear something funny? i spilled milk all over the floor yesterday and i swear i was abt to have a mental breakdown bc IT WAS THE FIRST THING I THOUGHT OF WHEN I WOKE UP FROM THE ZOMBIE COMA" ppl like that shit. they like it when u just walk up talking about random shit. if theyre also in their head at the moment, they'll be super happy you started a convo w them so they get a quick laugh. they'll relate to you bc everyone spills shit. u can even be as dramatic as u want w/ it.

2) compliments. girls LOVE COMPLIMENTS. walk up to them and find anything to compliment them about. they'll love u for sure if u always saying something sweet 2 them.

Stormiexx
Streetmusician

Stormiexx wrote:

MissLondon wrote:

mraizawa wrote:

MissLondon wrote:
People are attracted to
what you put out.
Are you friendly or try to
start conversations with them?
Want to be included, you have
to put forth some type of effort

I try to use friendly body language towards people so they know I'm open for conversation, but as I said I also don't want to be rude and start talking to people who don't want to be talked to.

Have they told you they don’t
want to be bothered?

I’ve started conversations with strangers
with, “I’m sorry but I couldn’t help but overhear…”
and boom, we end up chatting and laughing
like we’re casual friends.

People are more open than you think
but if you just keep to yourself
it makes people back off because
it comes across as if you’re unapproachable.

I used to be shy so I somewhat get it
but things didn’t change
until I just went for it

this. a lot of ppl dont realize theyre just being really shy....

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Stormiexx wrote:
let me just give u some advice as someone who attracts literally everyone.............

1) go up to them and just start talking to them. doesnt matter what its about. you accidentally spilled milk on the floor at home the day before? there u go. "hey girl whats up? u wanna hear something funny? i spilled milk all over the floor yesterday and i swear i was abt to have a mental breakdown bc IT WAS THE FIRST THING I THOUGHT OF WHEN I WOKE UP FROM THE ZOMBIE COMA" ppl like that shit. they like it when u just walk up talking about random shit. if theyre also in their head at the moment, they'll be super happy you started a convo w them so they get a quick laugh. they'll relate to you bc everyone spills shit. u can even be as dramatic as u want w/ it.

2) compliments. girls LOVE COMPLIMENTS. walk up to them and find anything to compliment them about. they'll love u for sure if u always saying something sweet 2 them.

honestlie 2nd point kinda poop cus if someone came up to me gassing me up i'd be like alright that's enough now, also i don't think complimenting someone is enough to grant being liked by them. just be casual and talk to them in a friendly manner yes, i could never decline someone coming up to me so casually, i automatically must participate in the conversation mhm

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ouch wrote:

mraizawa wrote:

ouch wrote:

ouch wrote:
Same, but I don't think I intimidate other women, I just think mby im not their type they gravitate towards for friendship idk. Its fine rlly, when I still went to chool I was in a class with my beat friend so I wasn't alone, but even when she wasn't there and I was "alone" I don't mind, except if theres forced mandatory breaks where u have to be among other students ? Idk

I am 99% looks has smth to do with it tho, bcus I noticed after I started wearing makeup and looking more fem, ppl would approach me more. I could imagine thats the thing in beauty school at least

Looking back I also think more people talk to me while I wear makeup. I think usually to compliment me on it and thats it but hey it's a start.

Yeahh I dually think ppl disregard the importance of gaining new friends in how u look actually, makeup or not, but if ur very feminine or very masculine. Obv other parts impact it too but its an important part imo, and it often gets overlooked

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ouch wrote:

mraizawa wrote:

ouch wrote:
I am 99% looks has smth to do with it tho, bcus I noticed after I started wearing makeup and looking more fem, ppl would approach me more. I could imagine thats the thing in beauty school at least

Looking back I also think more people talk to me while I wear makeup. I think usually to compliment me on it and thats it but hey it's a start.

Yeahh I dually think ppl disregard the importance of gaining new friends in how u look actually, makeup or not, but if ur very feminine or very masculine. Obv other parts impact it too but its an important part imo, and it often gets overlooked

Also that you don't try to talk to ppl, but often u notice some ppl just get talked to and friends within the first 5 minutes, while nobody ever tries to say even one word to you, and its very hard to talk to them after you feel dismissed by them also

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Claire wrote:
i think london has the best advice in this thread. nobody talking to you cause you not talking to them probably. gotta put in some more effort and miss stormie is right that its easy to start just by complimenting people.

you can use the friendliest body language in the world but tbh i do not speak that language you gotta use word language with me.