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Arthema wrote:

cobain wrote:
his fam is also planning an engagement party for us. or something of the sort.
like in our eyes it won't mean we're engaged or that we'll get married in the near future. it's just part of his culture. idk if it's officially an engagement tho. he has explained this to me a bit, he's doing it to please his family more or less. it's to make us "official" and i will be seen as a part of their family, i will be introduced to everyone (entire fam like 60 ppl tf). and he has said they will write a family contract or something, basically saying that if we ever break up he has to pay a shit ton of money to me. like a prenup. idk??
idk why he would do that and agree to all of this if he knows there's a chance we might not last. he asked me just 2 days ago if i'm ready for it. but then again he might just go around n think that none of this shady stuff would ever come out, so he's calm with it. u know? it doesn't have to mean anything. because people can cheat at any time, ppl can cheat right in the beginning, when u get engaged, when u get married, when u have children, when u have been together for decades. like. yeah.

I swear in your case to be extra petty and shit I'd go through with that, investigate more, and make the family like, love LOOOVE me, if I'd get solid proof I'd not even confront him but his mom and dad so they'll beat his ass for it, just make stuff worse for him like he did for you type of thing?

Kinda bad but If things end up badly for me in a relationship I go out with a bang, because I won't be the only one suffering AHA

And in all seriousness now, you should really resolve this and not prolong it for too much time, as it'll only make it worse for you in every aspect rlly, living situation, emotions, mental health... not good

I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this and can't believe that there are still people out there roping good people in shit relationships, ugh
if he wants a non serious thing why get someone involved, disgusting
I REALLY hope you'd be able to resolve it as fast as you could and get to focus on you

Cobain
International star

cobain wrote:
Have not left him yet
As I said I gaslit myself pretty well. Kind of decided to give him the benefit of the doubt regarding the whore searches. Or didn't really decide. Maybe a defense mechanism. It's been really up and down with us lately. Of course. I'm more sad, then super happy and chirpy, then angry. Idk.

But I've kept an eye on him. I kind of know that this relationship is doomed. Just gathering evidence for myself to make it easier for me to leave. I guess. And to shove it in his fucking face when I do.I check his history regularly. Still porn. Not as much as 4-5 times a day but still every time he's been alone. And I think it's become less just because I'm home a lot more now than I was before. I study from home so there's that, but now I also don't wanna leave him alone unless necessary. Toxic.

The other night he visited a cam strip show chat thingy. Where you can pay. This was when he was doing a night shift at work. Do you realise how deep into your porn addiction you must be to not only look at porn, but join a fucking masturbation show at work? I checked out the profile he was on too and its disgusting. Thinking he's into that makes me sick. I'd like to see what type of pork he watches too (or I don't WANT to but.. just to get more proof what a sicko he is) I don't think I can do that though

A week ago I had a bit of a breakdown over this livu app again. He was like fixing his home screen and sorting through apps and stuff, and I questioned some apps. He showed me them eventually and it wasn't anything weird that I could see but I told him people use all kinds of weird apps to cheat. He told me I was silly.I downloaded a bunch of live chat dating apps to like make him upset. Toxic lol. He didn't really react. Eventually I downloaded livu and he was like "you have one minute to delete every app you've downloaded" and I was like "or what" and he started counting down and I was like "this is only because you're scared of what I'm gonna find out on this app" or whatever. I did delete them but questioned him more.
Asked again if he had paid to talk to that girl. He said yea. I asked what her name was and he said another name than what he did last. So I asked why the fuck he's lying to me and said he gave me different responses now. So he came with some story about hiw she's poor and uses that app to make money, just by talking to people, never gets naked or does anything sexual. And when they had first gotten to know each other she had said one name, then later she had come clean and said her real name. And of course all of this sounds like bull fucking shit. He was like "I have no obligation to tell you her life story or troubles" but yes you fucking do if you're my whole ass boyfriend and I find you on a cybersex app. Tf. He told me again neither she or him has gotten undressed or done anything sexuellt. Swore on his family. Lol.
But he HAS used that app for sexual purposes before, in the past. So why the FUCK are you either going on there or downloading it again with the knowledge what you gain access to? Because you're "bored"? Nah man. Nah. That's like me downloading tinder knowing it's för hookups and dates but claiming I just wanna make friends. Lmao.

He has talked a lot with his friends the last couple of days. I can hear they're talking about money but I don't understand much else. I try my hardest to listen after words I recognise. I've just gotten a bad feeling about it all you know? Especially when it sounds like he's trying to say certain things quietly etc. I guess it's pretty far fetched to think that they're all in on buying prostitutes, like how can so many ppl in a friend group just be like that? But stranger things have happened ig.
Anyways they're talking about money, and I've heard "whore" in Arabic in these conversations too. Just yesterday he was on the phone with a friend and I swear to GOD I heard "germany" or "german" and "whore". His friend also said something about Ukraine and Russia etc. I heard "whore" a few times. Tried using Google translate in secret to translate their conversation, which might be illegal idk idc. It's bad though, doesn't work properly all the time. But "Lebanese sex" came up and also "young girls". Might be wrong. But i KNOW i heard them talking about whores and it just gave me a really bad fucking feeling. Just thr tone of his voice and everything. Disgusting.

He is now in another town. Where his best friend lives. And I'm really fucking scared that he's gonna see an escort there. Crazy me have googled around to find escorts in and around that town, and they're available. As they are everywhere and I get sick thinking about it. I feel like he's been so.. hush hush about this trip. Lots of weird talks with his friends, if they're in on this they might have fixed a meeting for him or whatever. He was acting weird with his phone yesterday. Just many weird things. He shaved the other day, which he hasn't done in a while, I think he shaved this morning too or possibly packed the razor, he packed alcohol, new boxers. Idk. IDK IM GOING INSANE.

And I just saw in his history that he visited that same strip show about 2h ago. REALLY strange when he's with a friend? Yeah? And then he was offline and didn't respond to me until just now. Either blowing a load off before seeing someone, maybe he's seeing her lol. Fuck do I know yeah. He just called me, couldn't really notice anything strange but idk. Fml.
When he comes home I will look for physical evidence. Marks, bruises, smells, stains, hus behaviour, whatever and keep checking the history.
I hate my fucking life

Cobain
International star

cobain wrote:
And if I do find any searches for prostitutes, I hope to fucking GOD it shows me a specific one. So that I can save a picture of her and when he comes home show him and ask "do you know her" and watch him fucking CRUMBLE.

might do the same with the strip show girl. I don't know. I'm a mess and I feel so heartbroken that someone would ever do this to me. Why is he doing this to me? All the times I've cried to him about my past and when I've gotten so scared and sad about situations and he's out fucking whores and PAYING to be exactly as shitty, even more shitty, as everyone in my past.
And naturally I feel so... idk.. not enough... I know its not me, its not my fault or anything I've done to make him do all of this, but I can't help to think... why am I not enough for him? Why?
And why on earth did he ever pick me and decide to string me along into his problematic porn and sex addiction bullshit? I feel like everything has been a big fat lie and I'm devastated. He can't love me for real if he's putting me through all of this.

I know you're all thinking I'm absolutely dumb in the fucking head for even staying a minute longer after everything I've discovered. I know and I agree. But for myself and my own sanity I actually think I need to mentally prepare myself like this, go a bit psychotic about it, gather my evidence in peace and then never look back. You know? Fuck

Cobain
International star

cobain wrote:
I'm a mess

Cobain
International star

cobain wrote:
Can't sleeeeep I'm just thinking he's currently fucking someone else and I want to throw up

MissLondon
Queen of Queens

MissLondon wrote:
All of this sounds like
a lot of work
and you have to be exhausted

It seems like you have to
basically see him fucking someone else
before you can really accept what’s up
and move on.

There’s nothing to add that
hasn’t been posted before so
Imma peace out on this saga
Sorry all of this happened
and I hope you find a
resolution soon❤️

Cobain
International star

cobain wrote:

MissLondon wrote:
All of this sounds like
a lot of work
and you have to be exhausted

It seems like you have to
basically see him fucking someone else
before you can really accept what’s up
and move on.

There’s nothing to add that
hasn’t been posted before so
Imma peace out on this saga
Sorry all of this happened
and I hope you find a
resolution soon❤️

❤

Private
Youtube star

Miguel wrote:
genuinely curious, what other kind of proof do you need to leave him? like he pretty much has given all the cheating-signs and it seems you do believe he's cheating. but what else do you need?
its not healthy, you're going to get more hurt if you keep trying to find more stuff. you have everything you need already, every single proof

Private
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Miguel wrote:
like i dont understand the need to basically harm your head more and more. he's not worth the pain, let his addiction consume him and get with someone who does deserve you, cause i promise you it wont be the last man you'll have in your life (or at least i'd hope you'll leave him for someone better). if you need to get therapy to be able to feel inner peace, do so, but please leave that relationship and heal

Cobain
International star

cobain wrote:

Miguel wrote:
genuinely curious, what other kind of proof do you need to leave him? like he pretty much has given all the cheating-signs and it seems you do believe he's cheating. but what else do you need?
its not healthy, you're going to get more hurt if you keep trying to find more stuff. you have everything you need already, every single proof

Yeah honestly I don't know what else I'm looking for or what I want to find. Like just the searches for whores in Germany alone is enough to leave someone imo.
I think I'll confront him tomorrow when he comes home because I don't know for how much longer I'll be able to live in this nightmare. Just wanna rip the bandaid off.
I'll ask him what the fuck he has done to me, and tell him that I know his fucking secrets. I'll demand to look at his phone. If he doesn't show me I don't give a fuck, just more proof that he has something to hide, and if he does show me I'll definitely get more proof. Not that it's needed. Even if he's deleted everything and I find no proof I'll leave. He doesn't deserve me and the endless fucking love I've given to him.

He has a night shift tomorrow, I don't know when he'll come home but if there's not much time I'll wait until he quits work to confront him. Just so that he can't.. idk.. have an excuse to leave

Cobain
International star

cobain wrote:
I'm gonna start therapy after this. I need to heal, both from this and past experiences. And learn how to not attract these people.
I don't know why shit like this keeps happening to me, I don't know what I've done to deserve all of this

Private
International star

liv wrote:
i was kind of cheated on in the past few months and i didn’t leave him. it’s the hardest thing in the world to leave someone you love so deeply. i still haven’t left him, i’m too weak and i love him absolutely too much i genuinely don’t have the courage to. we’ve talked about ending things and every time i’m like no or make it clear i don’t want to. i bring this up because everyone is saying to leave your bf which is honestly the best thing to do but i do rly understand the struggle and why u haven’t left yet. it’s a hard decision
i wish u the best and to get the courage to leave bc no man is worth this much pain ❤️

Cobain
International star

cobain wrote:

liv wrote:
i was kind of cheated on in the past few months and i didn’t leave him. it’s the hardest thing in the world to leave someone you love so deeply. i still haven’t left him, i’m too weak and i love him absolutely too much i genuinely don’t have the courage to. we’ve talked about ending things and every time i’m like no or make it clear i don’t want to. i bring this up because everyone is saying to leave your bf which is honestly the best thing to do but i do rly understand the struggle and why u haven’t left yet. it’s a hard decision
i wish u the best and to get the courage to leave bc no man is worth this much pain ❤️

Thank u ❤
I wish you the best also and that you're able to figure out what's best for you and your wellbeing, it's a really tough situation and I'm sending you lots of love and strength ❤

Cobain
International star

cobain wrote:
Imagine if I'd never woken up that night when I found him on the app. I might have never known about all of this. I swear it's intuition. I was having bad dreams, even bad dreams that he cheated!!!!!!! That was my body's alarm bells going off and telling me somethings really fucking wrong

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Wish you all well cobain