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Angelica wrote:
-parenthood and how every parent fucks up their child in some way
I think to some degree every parent does something that will affect their kid in a bad way, it migh be hard to find a balance that is suitable. But i don't think every parent fucked up their kid too a degree where it hinders them from living and growing as decent people. I guess it really depends on how u "fuck up" the kid too, if it's in term of health, upbringing or passing mental health.

-therapists are bad at their jobs
I don't think therapists are necessarily bad at their job. I just don't think therapy is for everyone, u have got to want the help and take action when having a therapist.

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I don't have anything against therapy and am thinking going. The worst that can happen is me not linking it and not going.
But my boyfriends family has this opinion that it's pure shit

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Rowan wrote:

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what is your story
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I agree with the statement even tho I have wonderful parents and don't really have anything against the way they raised me and my sisters. But parenting is damn stupid and I never understood why people put themselves into that situation.

me til 2017 n now its like all i want in life

i feel like mine def kinda failed me in some ways, even if i have a rlly good bond w them nowadays, bbut tht always makes me scared of having kids of my own bc ppl say every1 will make th same mistakes their parents make u kno hcbdhbvhf

I think it's opposite. If you know what you didn't like, why would you do it to your kids?

yea no i agree bbut 4 some reason sm people have said that to me that theres just this feeling like 'ur gonna fuck up.'
I'm also like the opposite of my parents, like idc about status n success n stuff n i dont see kids as like an extension of myself n i dont want kids bc i want a 'mini me' or whatever

I think its more sth that happens to people who arent aware of their parents mistakes, like those ppl who got beat by their parents but it's jsut their normal so when they have kids of their own they repeat what their parents did to them u know

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-anxiety: yet again i feel this every second of the day it seems. Anxiety is the most stressful shit in my life and I've just begun to acknowlage that i have it. And its scary. So yeah, sounds accurate, and I'm still learning to cope i guess

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-parenthood and how every parent fucks up their child in some way
no

-are we inclined to love or just keep in touch with our family just because it's our family even of we don't have any respect for them
just don't

-meditation bringing you to the "truth" and how it's hard to get there because there is fear that when you do, nothing will matter and living will not make sense
I don't believe in that, spirituality, its a no from me

-therapists are bad at their jobs
this is too general

-teachers are terrible at their job
this is too general

-the schooling system is outdated
idk but I like it

-my fear of people hating me so I try to make myself likable but I also hate when people use it for their gain
ion want ppl to hate me but I still act like a shitkid cus who cares at the end of the day

-his anxiety that his anxiety will make him crazy
what

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Angelica wrote:
-parenthood and how every parent fucks up their child in some way
I think to some degree every parent does something that will affect their kid in a bad way, it migh be hard to find a balance that is suitable. But i don't think every parent fucked up their kid too a degree where it hinders them from living and growing as decent people. I guess it really depends on how u "fuck up" the kid too, if it's in term of health, upbringing or passing mental health.

-therapists are bad at their jobs
I don't think therapists are necessarily bad at their job. I just don't think therapy is for everyone, u have got to want the help and take action when having a therapist.

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I don't have anything against therapy and am thinking going. The worst that can happen is me not linking it and not going.
But my boyfriends family has this opinion that it's pure shit

That's what I did and I constantly feel bad for it bc society now frame you as stupid if you don't go bc it's "the only way"

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Annie wrote:

NOface wrote:

-are we inclined to love or just keep in touch with our family just because it's our family even of we don't have any respect for them

Absolutely. There are people who find the strength to cut off family ot loved ones from their lives, but from childhood, we're taught that blood is thicker than water and family comes first. Its engraved in our minds to stick to family, even when it harms us. I have a huge amount of respect to people who can cut toxic family members out of their lives.

yea that is really respect worth
We listen to this "guru" guy that is all chill and his mother is overly critical but he said something like "I visit her once a year and move on with my life after that"
So maybe you just need to learn how to not care about their opinion even tho it's so hard because you are thought they are the authority and stuff.

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-teachers are terrible at their job
very general statement. but almost all of the ppl i study w are genuinely passionate about teaching. a LOT has happened in the last few years in didactic opinions and science. i finished middle school five years ago, and now that im on the other side the opinions are so different and there are so many more diverse teaching methods than before

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Heaven wrote:
parenting is such a complex thing and i frankly think that most parents don't realize that... they just go into building a family or raising a child because they think they have enough material resources, but one of the most important factors, the mental health/mentality of the parent and the emotional resources, can most times be lacking and no one realizes it. not to say that environment doesn't affect the child because surely a child with a wealthy and loving family might turn out better than a child with a loving but poor family

Yes, some people make families just because they see it a s a next step in their lives. Sometimes, that can end really bad.

I live in a village where there is this family living on the money they get from the country, they don't work, but they have 12 children just because the father wanted to have more children than his father that had 11.
Bit off topic but I find it so mind blowing how some people don't think at all.

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Snusmumrikken wrote:

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-parenthood and how every parent fucks up their child in some way
well yes of course, humans are egoistic and stupid simultaneously, parents want to relive their lives through their kids, fixing mistakes they did to get a better outcome, kids won't listen because they are by nature stupid cunts so they do the same mistakes over and over again, humanity is bound to fail.

-are we inclined to love or just keep in touch with our family just because it's our family even of we don't have any respect for them
no.

-meditation bringing you to the "truth" and how it's hard to get there because there is fear that when you do, nothing will matter and living will not make sense
waste of time.

-therapists are bad at their jobs
i see you on this and up it with: it's the patients that are the problem.

-my fear of people hating me so I try to make myself likable but I also hate when people use it for their gain
rip

-his anxiety that his anxiety will make him crazy
rip

wow you really summed that up quickly haha

i'm not going to spend my time elaborating on this as i'm running out of time

fine by me

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Angelica wrote:
-teachers are terrible at their job
I don't think every teacher is bad at their job, i do think some are bad at handling the students they have thought. I have seen both ends of the spectrum. I have had a teacher so bad at handling the class that she got stress and quit. She would tell me to skip the things i didn't know, then never teach me them.
But on the other hand i have had teachers that have actively helped me. I suck at concetrating and i suck at asking for help if i struggle to understand things. I expressed my concerns and the teachers actively helped me to understand what i was sitting with.

-the schooling system is outdated
I do think that too yes, I think certain subjects should be replaced or rewritten. We need more subjects, helping us into adultlife, rather than teaching us useless things we don't quite need.

yea, there is two sides of that coin. Honestly, I would be so scared to teach because teenager's can be so mean.

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NOface wrote:

Angelica wrote:
-parenthood and how every parent fucks up their child in some way
I think to some degree every parent does something that will affect their kid in a bad way, it migh be hard to find a balance that is suitable. But i don't think every parent fucked up their kid too a degree where it hinders them from living and growing as decent people. I guess it really depends on how u "fuck up" the kid too, if it's in term of health, upbringing or passing mental health.

-therapists are bad at their jobs
I don't think therapists are necessarily bad at their job. I just don't think therapy is for everyone, u have got to want the help and take action when having a therapist.

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I don't have anything against therapy and am thinking going. The worst that can happen is me not linking it and not going.
But my boyfriends family has this opinion that it's pure shit

I mean i totally think it helps for some people, some people really just need to talk about things and get tools to get better.

I personally didn't get much from therapy either, but that was because i was bad at talking about my problems and expressing the help i need.

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Heaven wrote:
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-meditation bringing you to the "truth" and how it's hard to get there because there is fear that when you do, nothing will matter and living will not make sense
i think you mean enlightenment? i don't think anyone nowadays actually goes through enlightenment because arguably speaking you would not be part of society if you truly were enlightened (aka ""ego death"" and if you experience it where would your will to function as a member of society be?).
many have said that they felt as if they no longer belong in it after going through some sort of spiritual awakening but i beg to differ, as i said, i don't believe anyone nowadays actually goes through that. it's a temporary state of mind and one eventually gets used to "normal life" again.

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-This is what I meant. That is a theme my boyfriend loves to talk about because he did get some weird stuff happening with meditation and he think he would be able to reach ego death but is afraid of exactly that happening.

in my humble opinion i think that it's not something one should strive to achieve anymore in this day and age. i do understand it brings a sense of peace to one's mind but you can practice spirituality without completely killing off the ego because, as i said, you would not be able to function as a member of society anymore. so maybe he can stick to certain methods/rituals, but ego death is just.. not recommendable. ur basically inducing mental illness upon yourself lmao i'm sorry

but it's a bliss at the same time or something
like you don't care about anything. I wouldn't call it a mental illness but yea... Not recommend doing.

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Heaven wrote:
the spiritualists if they saw me saying one shouldnt experience ego death: omg she is stuck in the matrix omg she is being taken over by the ego

shut up man go meditate w ur fake ass crystals .. i detest modern spirituality

hhaahah yea there is definitely ego there tho

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Angelica wrote:
-parenthood and how every parent fucks up their child in some way
I think to some degree every parent does something that will affect their kid in a bad way, it migh be hard to find a balance that is suitable. But i don't think every parent fucked up their kid too a degree where it hinders them from living and growing as decent people. I guess it really depends on how u "fuck up" the kid too, if it's in term of health, upbringing or passing mental health.

-therapists are bad at their jobs
I don't think therapists are necessarily bad at their job. I just don't think therapy is for everyone, u have got to want the help and take action when having a therapist.

true
I don't have anything against therapy and am thinking going. The worst that can happen is me not linking it and not going.
But my boyfriends family has this opinion that it's pure shit

That's what I did and I constantly feel bad for it bc society now frame you as stupid if you don't go bc it's "the only way"

jeez no it's not the only way

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I will go and do some work now