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SweetLapis wrote:
Sera wrote:
yeah. so no reason to feel guilty for not liking him. i know that there's a certain pressure to be nice and give shitty people "just another chance" as a woman but fuck that, really. if drama makes you uncomfortable, that's valid, but you really don't have to be nice to such people or feel guilty about not liking them
and definitely. i doubt the majority of people cut off others "just because"
That's so terribly true, but yeah fuck that. Had enough with all the bs.SweetLapis wrote:
I get ya. It's annoying how people are quick to bad mouth other people for cutting off relatives since I'd imagine it's not the first thing most people wanna do unless that relative is is really toxic or downright abusive.
Sera wrote:
there's nothing wrong with not getting along with someone and you definitely don't need to be nice just because he's family and to prevent drama. he sounds like an ass.
i'm in the process of cutting off or at least avoiding my mom for a very long time which i initially thought i would never do as there's already a certain stigma surrounding not being in contact with your bio man (who [+ his side of the family] i cut off over 10 years ago), needless to say how people look at you and what they assume of you when you're not in contact with neither of your parents and only have very minimal contact with your other relatives. to avoid a lot of questions, i usually just lie and say that i'm just not close with my family and leave out the cutting off part. it took a long time for me to come to the conclusion that this is the right decision as i don't view my mom as a bad person or anything. she's just very damaged, which sucks as, though i never craved for a paternal figure (thus the lack of "daddy issues" ), i did see my mom kind of as both of my parents though a lot of times i felt like the parent.
Oh, he is an ass. Absolute ass that even his own mom says so, and that's saying something since he takes after a lot of her own bad qualities. Good thing I barely see him anymore.there's nothing wrong with not getting along with someone and you definitely don't need to be nice just because he's family and to prevent drama. he sounds like an ass.
i'm in the process of cutting off or at least avoiding my mom for a very long time which i initially thought i would never do as there's already a certain stigma surrounding not being in contact with your bio man (who [+ his side of the family] i cut off over 10 years ago), needless to say how people look at you and what they assume of you when you're not in contact with neither of your parents and only have very minimal contact with your other relatives. to avoid a lot of questions, i usually just lie and say that i'm just not close with my family and leave out the cutting off part. it took a long time for me to come to the conclusion that this is the right decision as i don't view my mom as a bad person or anything. she's just very damaged, which sucks as, though i never craved for a paternal figure (thus the lack of "daddy issues" ), i did see my mom kind of as both of my parents though a lot of times i felt like the parent.
I get ya. It's annoying how people are quick to bad mouth other people for cutting off relatives since I'd imagine it's not the first thing most people wanna do unless that relative is is really toxic or downright abusive.
yeah. so no reason to feel guilty for not liking him. i know that there's a certain pressure to be nice and give shitty people "just another chance" as a woman but fuck that, really. if drama makes you uncomfortable, that's valid, but you really don't have to be nice to such people or feel guilty about not liking them
and definitely. i doubt the majority of people cut off others "just because"
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