Rouya wrote:Bloodflowers wrote:Rouya wrote:
usually being friends right after you break up, doesnt turn out too well. if you are to be friends, you should go no contact for at least a month to let the relationship properly die, so it doesnt come up in conversations anymore and any residual feelings can pass
from my end I'm fine with being friends directly after. I don't think he's being open to me about his feelings but at the same time is already looking for someone new. mixed signals. I feel like even if we don't talk in a month there's no going to be less things that are needed to talk about.
doesnt sound like its fine from his end, so for both your sakes, you should probably give him time to grieve the relationship and move on, even in his own weird way however he may do that. i have been in a similar situation, where i broke it off with a guy i wasnt very serious about, and we agreed to be friends after, and he just ended up getting really weird and possessive, asking me intrusive questions about whether i was already seeing someone new etc etc., even though he said he was completely fine and wanted to be friends. i ended up having to block him and we never spoke again (not that i even really wanted to be friends, when i think back on it now, it was just out of kindness towards him, because i knew he really liked me)
so yeah i would recommend, if you
genuinely want to be friends, and youre not just saying/doing it out of kindness towards him bc you think it will make the break easier, you should give it some time before you initiate a new relationship with him as friends
I feel like I am giving him space and time but I just don't feel like he's being honest with me. At the same time I can't let myself go around thinking he's lying so I feel like I have to take his word for it that he wants to be friends and as he says doesn't have any negative feelings towards me.