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Emiliaaaaaaa wrote:
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im sorry, i hope u will feel better <3

BunnyButts wrote:
I send the biggest hugs send me a discord message!

Versailles wrote:
That sounds like a hard situation and understandable if the anxiety have been up because of this. I appreciate that you came here with this story and opening up, it's healthy to let it out somewhere or have people to listen. Let alone writing your feelings and thoughts, which is helpful for sorting feelings out. I'm here if you need someone to listen and hoping for the best. 
You mentioned your boyfriend was with you? Do you talk about it with him much? it can be helpful to be honest to people dear to you that you'd like a bit of uplifting - because it's not easy dealing with this alone.

Heartbroken wrote:
Baby u can always write on my discord if you need to, im here for you

Sherb wrote:
trust me when I say, I understand having a sick parent is the hardest thing someone has to witness and go through. my mom was sick for nearly my entire life, and I recently lost her. she was my absolute best friend and really the only family that I spent any time with. she lived her entire life for me, and having her gone has been soul crushing. the best advice I could give you is so cliche, but live in the moment! dont worry about if or when you'll lose him, because it will eat you alive. live in the moment and always be prepared for an emergency. Have a plan with your boyfriend. I wasn't with my mom when she passed, I found out she passed by trying to call her and having no one answer so I sent my aunt over to check on her. everyday I wish I could've been there for her but I lived 5 hours away. 

spend as much time with him as you can, spend time together doing things you both enjoy. take pictures. make crafts together. watch stupid shows together. set aside a few nights a week and cook for him. 

when your not with him, try not to worry! when I was away at college I lost 35lbs from stressing about my moms health when I couldn't be around. it was hard. I had to find something I was surer passionate about to take my mind off the stress. I also had some unhealthy coping mechanisms that were not so great. it wasn't a matter of if she would pass, but when. she came up to visit me as often as she could. we cooked together every night she was there and spent every holiday together, just us two and my aunt. I called her every morning at 7am, we texted throughout the day, and would talk on the phone before bed. that's how I knew something was wrong when she wasn't answering my calls. I cant say it gets easier, but you do get stronger. 

you have to be strong and find a purpose outside of worrying. I know its so hard, but finding an easy hobby/ something hands on like cooking, sewing, gardening, anything small, will help you take a step back and just breathe. with your hobby, make something nice for him. write him letters, ask him to write you some too. it's nice having their handwriting so you never forget it. 

and Im so sorry you have to go through this. I obviously hope he stays healthy for a long time. it sounds like your sister is there with him in case anything were to happen, just have a plan. life keeps moving, I either had to move along with it or id be lost in my own head. I was alone when I found out and I lived alone for 3 more months after as well until I was able to move across the country to be with my boyfriend. my mom was the most important person in my life, and when I almost lost her in highschool, I told myself id kms if she passed because I would be so lost without her. I never knew how okay I would be until the worst case scenario happens and it forced me to be okay. 

I know nothing I say will be an immediate fix, but you'll be alright! no matter what happens, you will be resilient and strong. live in the now and good luck, im sending my best wishes to you <3

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Nesta wrote:
Sending a sleeping bunny hug to promote calm